What the Modern Woman Does Not Know: Part Three

 Please understand and believe if women could bear to be empathic towards the fact that men and women both have been lied to when it comes to what it means to be a woman patriarchy could be dismantled. Patriarchy was devised due to the onslaught of agriculture. During that period over 5000 years ago, women were presumed to be helpless and should only concern themselves with childbearing and rearing. Their work should be confined to the home and they didn't need education to do that. Women's emotions and feelings were disregarded and thought to be irrational because men, whose mental make-up naturally causes them to think in systems and logic viewed the female brain as chaotic and random.

What is causing the war between men and women is the lack and disregard for the biological and natural differences between men and women.  

"The female brain is predominantly hard-wired for empathy. The male brain is predominately hard-wired for understanding and building systems. " Simon Barron-Cohen  

The author states: Systemizing-is the drive to analyze, explore, and construct a system."

Those who systemize intuitively determine how things work and pry until they find the rules that regulate the behavior of a system. Empathizing is used to understand an individual's behavior. For one to empathize, they must develop some level of attachment with a person to be aware one is dealing with a person and not an object, a being with feelings that may affect one's own. 

LET ME BE CLEAR; SYSTEMIZING AND EMPATHIZING ARE NON-SEX BASED TRAITS. BOTH MEN AND WOMEN ARE ENDOWED WITH THE ABILITY TO SYSTEMIZE AND EMPATHIZE. AS IT SO HAPPENS, MEN HAPPEN TO LEAN MORE TOWARDS SYSTEMIZING AND WOMEN TOWARDS EMPATHIZING. BIOLOGY PLAYS A GREAT PART IN THIS REALITY.

Systemizing is most useful when used to determine inputs and deliver outputs. 1 + 2= 3 is an example of a system. Those individuals who lean on systemizing to understand the world use logic to determine the outcome of a situation and rarely figure in any other input to determine other possibilities. The problem arises when systemizers try to apply this input/output way of thinking to day-to-day social interactions. This realization is what the architects of patriarchy did not know. Because the male brain has an "if this happens, then that will happen," mentality, and does not allow for the reality that people, unlike objects and numbers are not rules based. Our behaviors and emotions do not follow any set pattern. One of the biggest issue with women is when a woman may not be happy after she gets what she wants. The male brain thinks "Wants + wants being met= happiness. Systemizing cannot and does not account for a person's mood swings.

What the architects of patriarchy were not evolved enough to know is that even though the most accurate way to understand and predict the natural path of events and objects is to systemize, empathy is the realistic way to approach social situations. 

I know; asking women to do MORE seems crazy and I get it. Remember, I had a cheat code that was given to me at 15. My mother's emotional divorce from my father compelled me to examine why each took the position they did. In my research, I became empathic towards males because it was clear they were being misled when it came to dealing with feelings, emotions, their health, seeking help but most of all their value as human beings. Patriarchy has brainwashed men and by proxy women into believing that money is the answer to all their problems. Once again, now that money is no longer a lure when it comes to getting a woman, they are lost because women have always needed emotional support and are now demanding it to consider being in a relationship. 

Even if women decide not to help the men in their lives, they must be committed to rearing young men who respect women. If one goes by the information I have provided based on scientific study, we are the ones who are more naturally equipped and willing to do so. Even though men are capable of empathy, women have extra hormones that help boost our ability to empathize. Women know what women want and need. It is imperative that we recognize the patriarchal thoughts we harbor that may give us a "boys will be boys" attitude.  

I'm a proud mother of a son who says, "I'm a feminist" with his chest stuck out. From the day he was born, I began whispering certain mantras into his ear. "You have the power to change. Treat people like you want to be treated." As a young boy, I would take him to poetry readings, had him participate in theatre (which is a great way to bring emotions to the surface) and encouraged him to dance and play. I let him cry and asked him how he was feeling and what he was thinking. I tried with all my might to teach him to cook, but he rejected it until he figured it out once he left home because he was not accustomed to eating out regularly. One of the best activities was teaching him to think critically and helping him figure out how determine what is in his best interest. 

Once again, I know asking women to do more is crazy making, but I also know we can and must if we want to create a world where we are appreciated for who we are and what we contribute. Men are pushing back even though they have no right. They must and will surrender, but it can't happen if we match their energy. This is truly the time to go high when they go low.

To be continued....